"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be
nothing." -- Elbert Hubbard
Criticism, just or unjust, can hurt us and leave us a bit
frustrated at times. There will always be some who will doubt our motives and
find fault in our efforts no matter how noble our intentions. Take heart, for
every person who has dared to take action has found his or her share of
critics.
We must simply examine our hearts, be honest with ourselves in
regard to our intentions, and move forward. If we are on the side of truth,
then truth really does set us free. If not, we make the adjustment. When we are
in error, we must be quick to ask for forgiveness. When we are not, we must be
quick to extend forgiveness and show grace at all times. It may not be easy,
but it really is necessary.
There was a time when I thought criticism from others signaled that
I was on the wrong path or that I must be doing something specifically wrong.
As I look back, I wonder how many times I let the critics derail me and either
abandoned an idea or a quest -- or in the best case -- settled for far less. It
was as though "they" knew something that I didn't know, or were
smarter than me. I mean, if the path I was walking was really the right one,
wouldn't everyone agree with me and wish me well on the journey? I think in
your heart you already know the answer to that question is -- NO.
There are far too many reasons why people criticize our efforts to
even begin to discuss here in this post. Some criticism comes from ill-intent,
or petty jealousy, or just a level of comfort that assures someone they are
okay, and that there is no need to go further, or learn something new. Change
the status quo and you can bet someone will not like it. It is at these times
that we must look at the results -- their results. Either they have them or they don't. If they really don't have the results you want, why give them power over you and your
dreams?
However, there are some who have our best intentions at heart and
are simply working from the best information at hand to make recommendations or
provide guidance. This criticism is harder to discern and often harder for us
to break through. However, just a quick look at the events of the last 5 to 10
years will tell us that things have changed and new information and new actions
are necessary if we are truly going to succeed in the manner we have determined
is right for us. At this point, if you believe you are doing the right thing,
it is a matter of making a decision and sticking to it. In time, the truth
always comes to the surface.
Criticism comes with success. When we know it up front, we can
make plans to deal with it. And, the best defense against a critic is to prove
them wrong. The question is; do we have the resolve to do it? Let me know how I can help.
You have to listen to criticism and welcome it! It is like the old saying: If the dogs don’t like the dog food it’s bad dog food. You don’t determine what a good product is. Only your customer does. And if they don’t like your product, it’s a bad product. Period. In others words, the customer is always right. Darn it.
ReplyDeleteThanks Julie. In the end it is the results that count -- and we must be willing to adjust our plans if what we are doing is not working.
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